How to Explain Nursing Facilities to Grandkids

Explaining a move to a nursing facility can be tough for adults—so it’s no surprise that helping children understand this transition takes special care. Kids may have questions, worries, or even misconceptions about why their grandparent isn’t living at home anymore. The good news? With a little guidance, you can help them feel included, reassured, and even excited to stay connected.

At Ashford Hall, we believe family involvement—at every age—is essential to quality care. Here’s how to talk to kids about nursing facilities with honesty, empathy, and love.

1. Start with Simple, Honest Language

You don’t have to go into medical or emotional detail—kids benefit most from clear, age-appropriate language. Explain that their grandparent needs more help with daily activities, and that trained caregivers at the nursing facility are there to keep them safe and comfortable.

Example:
“Grandma is moving to a place where there are nice people who help her every day so she can feel better and stay healthy.”

2. Let Them Express Their Feelings

Just like adults, kids need space to process. They may feel confused, sad, or even think they did something wrong. Give them time to ask questions, and reassure them that it’s okay to feel however they feel.

Helpful Tip:
Say things like, “It’s okay to miss Grandpa,” or “What questions do you have?” Let the conversation be a two-way street.

3. Include Them in the Process

Whether it’s helping choose photos to hang in Grandma’s new room or making a card to bring on the first visit, including kids gives them a sense of purpose. It helps them feel involved and shows that their relationship with their grandparent is still important.

4. Paint a Positive Picture

Share what life in a nursing facility is like—meals in a dining room, friendly staff, fun activities, and other residents to talk to. This helps remove fear or uncertainty and shows them it’s not a sad place, but a supportive one.

Bonus: If your loved one’s facility has a pet, garden, or game room, mention that too!

5. Encourage Visits (Even Virtual Ones)

Let kids know they’re welcome to visit and that their grandparent will be excited to see them. If distance is an issue, help them record a message or schedule a video call. Even a quick “Hi, I love you!” can mean the world.

6. Model Positive Connection

If you show affection, joy, and warmth during visits, kids will follow your lead. Bring a small activity—like coloring, looking at old photos, or playing cards—to give them something to do together.

Final Thoughts

Children thrive when they feel included, heard, and loved. By involving them in the transition to nursing facility care, you’re not just helping them understand—you’re helping nurture an ongoing relationship that benefits both them and their grandparent.

At Ashford Hall, we welcome families of all ages. We’re here to support every generation with kindness and compassion.

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